Sasha Answers: I’m pregnant and people are happy for me
Hi Sasha! Here's the sitch: I'm pregnant, my husband and I are very happy, it was totally planned, fantastic. The thing is, people (family, extended family and friends) are going BAT SH!T CRAZY about this kid. This will be the first grandchild and I'm the first out of my close friends to have a kid, so I just feel like the intensity, focus and attention is constant and relentless. It's all baby talk, all the time. "Have you thought of names? Where are you going to register? Are you going to go back to work? How are you feeling this morning? What do you want as a shower theme? Did you throw up your lunch today? How are you going to decorate the nursery? What do you mean you haven't thought of names yet???" and on and on and on. It's exhausting. I try to steer the conversation in other directions, but it always comes back to me and the baby. Plus, we had some difficulties getting pregnant, including a miscarriage last year, so I'm also feeling a little extra cautious and nervous, and less OMGI'MSOEXCITED. Please help me deal with all the attention! Thank you! D
I really don’t want to poo-poo your question, but come on, are we really talking about people being too loving and kind? Because jeez, if that’s your biggest problem I think you need to slow your roll.
I understand your heightened anxiety levels, especially after you miscarriage (I’m sorry that you had to go through that), but everything seems to be on the up and up now, right? So D, my advice is pretty simple here, try your best to jump on the happy baby bandwagon with everyone else. Isn’t that kind of the nice happy approach to all of this?
I know, I know, you wanted me to get them to quit harassing you, but I’m sorry, it’s kind of rude, not to mention super awkward, to ask people to stop being interested and lovely and thoughtful. Sure, I get that it’s probably annoying and overwhelming at times, but this just all seems a tad redonk to get upset or even stressed over.
The bottom line is that your family and friends are really excited for you, so let them be; they’re just trying to show you how much they love and support you. That’s all. Nothing more, nothing less.
Hope this helps and of course, when you’re ready to think names Duana is your girl for that. xx