Sasha Answers: I’m pregnant and superstitious
I’ve recently found out I’m pregnant – just barely so. I’m very superstitious about announcing a pregnancy too early, I’ve seen friends lose babies and have to explain it over and over again, it’s always a gut-wrenching conversation for anyone involved. It’s always been my plan to wait for my second trimester to announce to everyone except my husband
So here’s the problem with my plan… both mine and my husband’s clan are watching me like Britain is watching Duchess Catherine. And we have a large event coming up very soon that will include lots of alcohol and pictures and foods that I’m not sure if I’m allowed to eat or not. My husband’s brother is getting married! And the gal he’s marrying is great, but does NOT like to share the spotlight. At ALL. I don’t want to welcome her into the family by letting it slip during her wedding events that I’m pregnant.
So… should I gamble and try to pretend I’m drinking and eating raw fish in front of everyone, or should I let people know sooner before the wedding events start to get the “congratulations!” stuff out of the way? Thanks for any advice, M.
I'm not trying to be cute, M, but to me this is easy as pie -- do what you want to do! If you don't feel comfortable telling people before the three month mark then don't feel pressured to. You and every mother in the world know the reasons for waiting and anyone who would question that is a self-involved dink.
So yes, go to the party, pretend to have a drink, get down with some carbs, and call it a day. Oh and make sure your man is in cahoots so that he can create some interference between you and his family. Now if for some reason there’s an impromptu keg-stand-sushi-eating contest where everyone has to do it or get gunned down - then well, fine, you'd have no choice but to fess up. But I’m pretty sure that’s not going to happen so, M, don’t stress about this anymore – just keep your cool and you’re cover won’t be blown.
Now when it comes to your sister-in-law, as long as you're not tripping her down the aisle with your stomach – it’s all good. The way I see it, sharing good news is exactly that – GOOD news! More than one person in a family can have exciting things going on without any overshadowing – all of this should be celebrated. You know? Bottom line: this is your body, your baby and YOUR say!