Cameron Diaz: on aging, Botox, and children
Cameron Diaz’s The Other Woman opens on Friday. I would see it this weekend if I wasn’t travelling. And while the reviews aren’t amazing, they’re actually a lot better than Johnny Depp’s Transcendence. So…
Cam’s been giving a lot of candid interviews in support of the movie. You’ve heard her talking about fidelity and protecting the female bush. You’ve heard her get body positive. You’ve even heard her defend the conscious uncoupling of her good friend Gwyneth Paltrow. This weekend in an interview with The Telegraph, she talked honestly about aging, friendship, family, and children.
“I can’t wait to be older. This is something we really need to reframe. The most interesting parts are for women who are over 40. We don’t see it that way, because they’re not the sexy parts. Look at the Oscar nominees in the last decade.” Diaz reels off a list that includes Meryl Streep, Helen Mirren and Dame Judi Dench. “We’re not giving those women enough credit for what they’re accomplishing, which is beautiful performances.”
To a point, yes. But sexy and interesting can intersect somewhere, non? Because by that definition, sexy is still associated with young. It’s going to be a message that we drill over and over and over and over and over again though. They say that if you say something enough times, you will start to believe it. Because it’s true…or because you have no choice? I’m 40. I’m not “young” anymore. And if I walk around thinking it would be so much better to be young, the rest of my life would suck. How do I stop wanting my 20 year old ass back though? Will hearing that “to age is great and exciting” from people like Cameron Diaz and Meryl Streep help me stop remembering that ass? The truth is…I don’t know. I desperately hope so. But I also don’t want to lie to myself. And then I worry that that makes me stupid, small, weak.
My favourite part of this interview is what Cameron has to say about getting help – for vanity. It’s probably the best way to answer the question:
“Life is long. There are things that you try that work for you and things that don’t work for you. I’m not going to say that I haven’t tried those things, because everybody has, all my girl friends have, things like Botox and fillers. It’s part of figuring things out, knowing yourself and going, 'Oh right, this doesn’t work for me.’”
God that is so much better than outright denial, isn’t it? It’s OK to want to try it. It’s OK to try it. It’s OK to admit to trying it. Just don’t f-cking lie to me and say you’ve never tried it. Also, try the alternative too. Like cold gel laser with my skin magician Lorinda Zimmerman who has clinics in both Toronto and Vancouver now. NON-INVASIVE!
And then there are her thoughts on THAT QUESTION. About kids. She doesn’t have any. It must mean her life has no value. That she’s never been truly happy.
“I’ve never said never to anything in life. If I wanted kids, at any point in life, I would have them. But I’m certain that if at any point I wanted a child, that child would find its way into my life, whether through adoption, or through being in a relationship with somebody who has a child. I can’t see the future, but one thing I do know is that I’m not childless. I have a ton of children in my life. I can have a kid any second, if I want. All my friends would be like, 'Sure, come and get them,’” she says with a laugh. “I also, by the way, have a lot of girl friends who don’t have children. It’s not like I’m the spinster who didn’t have a child. I just didn’t do that in life, and I’m OK with that. I know the choices I made. I know why I made them. I’m very much a person who lives in the moment. When you come from where I do, there are so many ways my life could have gone.”
Serious question and I’m asking because I don’t have the answer: in 20 years, if both Cameron Diaz and George Clooney don’t end up with children, will we end up being sadder for him than for her?
Click here to read the full Cameron Diaz article at The Telegraph.
Here’s Cam last night at the LA premiere in a little black dress with deep cleave. The cleave makes it a lot less ordinary. And I’m good with that. I wish I had the breasts for it. The shoes I can’t decide on. Something about the band of stones around her ankle makes me think of what they used to make moats.