Jennifer Garner’s Lemonade?
I received a click-baity alert email from Radar Online yesterday and couldn’t help myself. Title:
RADARONLINE.COM EXCLUSIVE: Back Together! Ben Affleck & Jennifer Garner Spotted In The City Of Love
There’s nothing new here. Just pictures posted by Twitter users of Ben and Jennifer in Paris with their children. Ben will be in London for the next couple of months for Justice League and apparently the whole family has moved there to be with him. Spending a few days of family time in Paris doesn’t necessarily mean they’re getting back together.
But it was over a year ago now that Ben Affleck was randomly sighted in Cape Breton, Canada, around the time of Jennifer Garner’s birthday, allegedly with a woman who was not Jennifer Garner. And it’s been 10 months since they announced their separation. And still nothing has been formalised.
After Chrissy O went away though, it’s almost like nothing’s changed. They’re together, often, with their kids – at church, at the farmers’ market – they vacation together during the holidays, and now they’re on the road together for work. At work, both have now spoken publicly about the situation. Ben addressed it somewhat awkwardly during promotion for BvS while Jen, well, she wasn’t awkward at all about it in Vanity Fair. In fact, she practically glowed about it in Vanity Fair. Which is why, when I was thinking about this last night, preparing today’s blog, I wondered if we could call Jen’s Vanity Fair her Lemonade.
In a way, the way she handled that interview was a piece of gossip art, non?
“I didn’t marry the big fat movie star; I married him. And I would go back and remake that decision. I ran down the beach to him, and I would again. You can’t have these three babies and so much of what we had. He’s the love of my life. What am I going to do about that? He’s the most brilliant person in any room, the most charismatic, the most generous. He’s just a complicated guy. I always say, ‘When his sun shines on you, you feel it.’ But when the sun is shining elsewhere, it’s cold. He can cast quite a shadow.
I don't know when love became elusive. What I know is, no one I know has it. My father's arms around my mother's neck, fruit too ripe to eat. I think of lovers as trees ... growing to and from one another. Searching for the same light. Why can't you see me? Why can't you see me? Why can't you see me? Everyone else can.
“Of course this is not what I imagined when I ran down the beach, but it is where I am. We still have to help each other get through this. He’s still the only person who really knows the truth about things. And I’m still the only person that knows some of his truths.”
You remind me of my father, a magician ... able to exist in two places at once. In the tradition of men in my blood, you come home at 3 a.m. and lie to me. What are you hiding?
“You know what we would say in my hometown about that? ‘Bless his heart.’ A phoenix rising from the ashes. Am I the ashes in this scenario? I take umbrage. I refuse to be the ashes.”
So what are you gonna say at my funeral, now that you've killed me? Here lies the body of the love of my life, whose heart I broke without a gun to my head. Here lies the mother of my children, both living and dead. Rest in peace, my true love, who I took for granted. Most bomb pussy who, because of me, sleep evaded. Her god listening. Her heaven will be a love without betrayal. Ashes to ashes, dust to side chicks.
Beyoncé took Jay Z back. And then turned his betrayal into an internationally celebrated masterpiece, consumed by, well, everyone. Jennifer Garner is not Beyoncé, OBVIOUSLY. But, within her abilities, has all of this been her version of that?