Sasha Answers: BF wants to buy me plastic surgery?
Hey Sasha, I've been dating my boyfriend for about four years. He's very caring, protective, not sleazy and very trustworthy. He's like a 'man's man' type of guy who wears very plain t-shirts and jeans and won't even try on a scarf (boring). Let me explain why I'm telling you all these... He told me he's got filler done on his face for nasolabial folds once, before we started going out, which is fine with me. I really don't care or have an opinion of what other people do, as some of my friends have gotten boobs and noses done. In random conversations, he's expressed that he'd like to keep minor procedures up every few years to prevent skin aging. He's in his early thirties now. He makes sure I take my multivitamins, wear SPF so that I'm healthy, which I do appreciate, but now he's interested in getting another filler done, and asked me to go with him for me to get one as well. I'm few years younger than him, in my late twenties, so I asked him if I looked like I needed it and he said NO, but doesn't hurt to get one as preventative measure. I said I'm not interested, and I'd rather get lipo done if I can get anything and he said I don't need it. He's never made me feel like I'm fat even though I whine about wanting to lose weight. I told him I'm too cheap to afford such luxury now and he's even offered to pay for me! So should I try it because WHY NOT, or hold on to this some sort of belief that I want to age gracefully? Maybe it's some sort of stigma associated with plastic surgery that's been engraved into my brain from reading too many gossip sites that I'm even against minor procedures... My boyfriend wishes I'd be more open-minded about this thing. Am I crazy for rejecting my boyfriend's offer? F
F, you’re only in your twenties!!! This is not the time to start messing around with your face or your body. All you have to do is flip through a magazine or damn, look at Lindsay Lohan and you’ll see all the heinous-wrong that can happen.
It’s just so f-cked up because you really have to ask yourself how it’s possible that these people, who have a sh-t ton of money and access to the best doctors, still manage to come out looking like a melted Kraft single slice. Lainey actually has a hilarious story where she went to a medical spa to get a facial and the doctor basically told her she was old and disgusting. I can’t do the story justice so you’ll have to get her to tell it one day. While her story is so damn funny, it was f-cked up to hear how hard this medical professional tried to make her feel insecure, but I guess it’s this kind of hard sell that makes cosmetic surgeons filthy rich.
The reality is that a pull here or squirt there can lead down a slippery slope. Sure, some people are able to limit themselves, but more often than not they go too far. It’s almost like as soon as they get work done it heightens their awareness of all of their “imperfections”; they can’t look in the mirror without wanting to fix it all.
F, if you’re asking me what to do, I say hold off. Look, if you don’t have any real issues with the way you look then don’t go messing around with it just because you can, you know? And I’m not going to lie, I think it’s totally bizarre that your man gets fillers, but if you’re cool with it – that’s great, but just because he gets sh-t done, doesn’t mean you should. I’m not saying don’t ever do it, but can we make a deal? Wait until you’re at least 35.
Cate Blanchett was just interviewed about this very topic. Let me leave you with a quote: "I'm not sitting on a soapbox telling women what they should and shouldn't do. I just know what works for me. I'd just be too frightened about what it means long-term. Looking at women in their 20s doing this stuff, in the end all you see is the work. It doesn't fill me with admiration; it fills me with pity.” (Source)
Come on, who would you rather be Cate Blanchett or Lindsay Lohan?