Sasha Answers: In love with my step-brother
Hi Sasha, I’m in a bit of a tricky situation I’d like to have your thoughts on. I have feelings for my step-brother. And before you think that’s so messed up, here’s the back story: we weren’t raised together. Our parents met and got married when we were teens. He didn’t have much of a relationship with his dad, so I only met him a few times. He barely ever slept over, and we practically never hung out. We randomly met a few months ago. Turns out we’re both going to school in the same town, but different universities and we started hanging out after that. We became close ridiculously fast, and now talk on a daily basis. I think he has feelings for me too. He’s very sweet, affectionate and touchy with me. I’ve caught him staring at me a few times when he thought I wasn’t looking. My friends say that’s messed up cause we’re supposed to be family, and they’ve noticed all these signs too, but say he’s just being big brotherly. So maybe I’m projecting my feelings on him. So I need an unbiased opinion…..D
Well I think we can all agree that this is hella awkward. Sure, you guys aren’t blood related, but the step-BROTHER title is there for a reason, meaning family, meaning no touchy no f-cky. I don’t know, I just can’t seem to get past it without this feeling all wrong.
Obviously the decision is up to you, but here are a couple things to ponder. Like, how horrible will it be if you tell him how you feel and it’s not reciprocated? How about if you do start dating and then you break up, what the f-ck will Sunday dinners look like for the rest of your life with your EX slash BROTHER? I mean D, you’ve got to be realistic – relationships in your early 20s very rarely are the everlasting ones so I’d seriously marinate on that for a bit before making any moves.
Look, no doubt this is a complicated situation and for that very reason I’d suggest taking a time-out from him and peel pack on the infatuation, because trust me, rushing into this is not the way to go. So take this period to figure out if this has just been a temporary lack of sanity on your part or if it’s really real.
Now if you can’t shake him and you know that you guys are meant to be, then f-ck, I don’t want to stand in the way of real love. BUT wait wait wait, before you start swapping spit or hand holding you HAVE to talk to your parents about this. They’d have to know. Again, majorly awkward, but heads up 7 up this will most likely be the running theme of your relationship if you do go ahead with it.
I obviously need to know how this all pans out so keep me posted! xx