Sasha Answers: Kissing him there
Hi Sasha, I have an embarrassing question that i just need your opinion on because i CANT bring myself to talk to anyone about this. Here it goes: My boyfriend of a year asked me the other night to go down on him but on his backside. Is this even normal? I didn't but but then he asked again. I don't know what to do. i love him so much and we have a great, trusting relationship. am i a prude? Any help or advice.
To eat ass or to not eat ass.
Dude, I feel like this is something that you should probably have some sort of gut feeling on. I would liken it to, I don’t know, like, maybe jumping out of a plane. You either want to do it or you don’t. If you don’t, that’s the end of the discussion.
But if you do or are at least curious, then usually you can't help but automatically start picturing what it might be like to jump out of that plane aka eat some ass. So things like fear, excitement, curiosity and hey, maybe even some barf, will all come up. F, if these are the kinds of things running through your head right now then I would say keep that *back* door open. I'm not saying strap on a bib and dive right in, but maybe it's okay to just keep thinking about it. No rush, no pressure, but if one day the vibe is right (preferably in a very soap-filled shower) then by all means, let your freak flag fly.
Now, on the flip-side if thinking about this starts to make you feel anxious, serious distress and/or if you're feeling pressure from your boyfriend, well, that would suggest to me you’re not down, or not down at the moment. I mean, who says you’ve got to drop down and chow? It doesn't make you any sexier or make for a better relationship. So do what you want, what feels right and most importantly, keep an open discussion with your boyfriend. If he’s that great, trusting boyfriend then he won't judge you or pressure you or make you do anything that you don't want to do.
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