Sasha Answers: My boyfriend is moving in with a lesbian
Hey Sasha, My boyfriend and I have been dating for three years and he's ready to move out of the nest. I on the other hand, am going back for a masters for a year, and we would be doing long distance again.
He wants to move in with his lesbian friend who almost texts him every day and they routinely have hangouts without me knowing. I just can't get over the fact that he would be moving in with another girl that's not me. I absolutely know I don't own him but I've told him about my discomfort with the situation but I don't believe he'll change his mind. What should I do? Love C.
Okay, you know what I’m going to say, C, but just in case we’re not on the same page, you do know lesbians are not into dudes, right?
With that out of the way let’s get to the root of what's really going on here, and C it seems to me that you’re projecting your own anxieties and fears of being in a long distance relationship on to his female friend. That’s not only unfair, but it’s also not the ideal way to embark on a year away from your man.
Now, I’m not the biggest fan of long distance relationships, but I do know kicking one off with a butt-load of trust issues is not the way to go. So my advice to you is to figure out what’s really making you feel insecure because in order to get through this year apart, you're both going to have to be extra honest, extra supportive and extra communicative.
The reality is that you won’t have the physical to help you through the hard times, so the only thing you will be able to rely on is your communications skills. C, it's time to start flexing those muscles.
And again, she's a lesbian.....
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