Sasha Answers: My boyfriend’s secret sext life
Hi Sasha, Here's the issue - I have been dating my boyfriend for about a year and thought he was the most trustworthy guy I have ever met. Right away he introduced me to his family and his friends, called me his bonafide, doesn't ogle other girls around me, is very respectful and loving. I've never had a man more proud to be my boyfriend. He is always available when I call and doesn't act secretive around me. I recently had to move for work and we are making plans for him to move out to join me within the year.
Unfortunately, on a recent visit, I stumbled onto the fact that he has been secretly sexting other girls throughout our relationship. I am not sure how he connects with them, but he has sent them naked pictures over email and sexted with them through Kik. He says its like looking at porn (which I am fine with), they are just girls on the computer to him, and that he would never cheat on me in real life. I am not sure whether to believe he will stop. In spite of it all I still love him and don't really want to break up. Please help me figure out how to handle the situation! Much love
Why bother writing in if you’re not really ready to break up? I don’t mean to c*nt-out on you, but it’s just that there’s really no point if you haven’t woken up to how F-CKED up this is.
I really want to be supportive, I really do, but what the sh-t, dude?! You've been with him for a year and the entire time he’s been whipping out his dick and talking dirt with a bunch of other chicks. Like, he’s totally fessed up to this super creepy behaviour and for some reason that’s not enough for you to leave?! But what’s even more jacked about all of this is that you’re actually buying his seriously wack excuse that it’s porn?????
Listen, my heart always goes out to anyone who is being cheated on. I know what a mind f-ck it is, I know how badly you'll try to avoid the signs, and I know how badly it hurts, but there comes a time when you have to grow a set, gain some self-respect and figure out why any of this sh-t is even remotely good enough for you. Because N, there’s no misinterpreting his behaviour here. He’s straight up playing your ass.
I could go on and on and on but at the end of the day you need to see the light on this. And when you do…..come back to this letter, read my response, let’s do a virtual high five and get you the hell out of this useless relationship.
Keep me posted xx