Sasha Answers: My friend and the MUCH older man
One of my close friends is dating a man that looks older than her dad and is at least twice our age. We’re both 16, and I tried many times to tell her to stop, but they are now going on 5 or 6 months I think. I don’t wanna be like the moral police, but this is all kind of wrong. He lied about his age and told her he was 25, which she figured pretty fast wasn’t true when they met. She no longer wants to talk about him with me cause I’m too judgmental. I’m generally not, but in this specific case, I feel very protective of her, and can’t help myself. She’s an amazing friend, and she chose to confide in me, but it’s not looking like she’ll be breaking up with him anytime soon. She thinks she’s in love with him, and is all like it’s refreshing to date a guy mature enough to have a clue… I'm all for dating mature guys, but come on! This could all end very ugly! I really don’t wanna break her trust, but I feel like there’s no other options. What should I do? K
There’s no couple creepier than Mary-Kate Olsen and that old old OLD dude. I feel like just looking at pictures of them is going to put me in jail. And even though the very sight of them gives me the "NO" feeling, the difference between MK and Sarkozy is that they are both the age of consent. They're adults.
So K, this is why your letter is super alarming because as you and I both know your friend is simply WAY too young to be in this relationship. Now I don’t want to freak you out too much but there’s really no time to left waste - you have to do something NOW because you’re right; this could and very well end up ugly.
I know you don’t want to break the friend code, but if you don’t do or say something that’s still an offence in this case. So you have you to tell her parents – yup, it’s the only solution. I know that feels wrong to do, but they need to intervene and put an end to it.
This isn’t just about your friend being in a bad relationship; in my opinion she in a disturbing one with a pedophile. Look, it might not be officially illegal for him to be dating her but it’s cutting it pretty damn close so please keep reminding yourself of that because if you want to be a good friend then you need to protect her. So the minute you stop reading this I need you to pick up the phone and call her parents. Promise me.
Keep me posted and thanks for writing in! xx