Sasha Answers: “Sh-t got real”
Hi Sasha. Here's the deal. I was dating someone (casually, non-exclusively) for about 6 months. He ended it to reunite with an ex. Not 3 months later, we started seeing each other again, nothing physical at first---but of course it became physical. So now we're having a bit of an affair, and we've been able to excuse it away (oh, we were drunk, etc), until now. We very consciously slept together again, and I think we both sensed sh-t just got real.
Thing is, best case scenario, he leaves her for me...but then how do I trust him? How do I get out of this gracefully, especially since really, all I want is for him to want to be with me? S
I get that we all f-ck up and do stupid sh-t, but the key here is to learn from those mishaps and grow into a better, more conscious adult. So the problem I have with you S is that you’re not doing that. Like, at all.
You’re sleeping with a man who ditched your ass not only once, but he’s currently in the process of doing it again, and to make matters worse, he keeps picking the same girl over you. And if “sh-t got real” between the two of you, then why isn’t it *real* enough for him to have left his girlfriend already????? Let that marinate for a while…
Here's the thing, you two could very well be meant for each other. I don’t know. But here’s an idea: why not have enough respect for yourself and all parties to wait your damn turn. Okay, I admit it, things just took a turn into the harsh, I know, but S, it’s time for you take some ownership of your own shady-ass behaviour. It’s just pretty gross that you’re desperately gunning for a guy who is not yours. Trust me, if dude really wants to be with you, he’ll do whatever he needs to do that. And wouldn't you rather be with someone who only wants to be with you and only you?
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