God, the Master of the Universe, the Higher Power, whoever that entity is, s/he is a gossip. That’s how I choose to explain how this happened – that Jennifer Garner and Ben Affleck have found themselves promoting their own movies at the same time, 8 months after announcing their separation. It’s such a beautiful twist of timing.

Everyone was talking yesterday about Ben’s interview with the New York Times to promote Batfleck and the part where he says he knew ahead of time about Jennifer’s Vanity Fair interview and why she wanted to do it – to address the situation and then get it over with.

Suuuuuure. But she didn’t have to do it in a way that described him as a husband who was selective about his attention.

“I always say, ‘When his sun shines on you, you feel it.’ But when the sun is shining elsewhere, it’s cold. He can cast quite a shadow.”

That’s the kind of insight that goes beyond just telling the media that they’ve worked hard to establish a new relationship after marriage. That statement, right there, tells you about character, about commitment, about, specifically, how it felt for her to share a home with him – that it’s always, always about HIM.

What most people overlooked from the NYT article, however, is what Ben said about himself, which is what I’ve always said about him:

In those idle moments, he said: “I get antsy. I’m my own worst enemy in that way.”

Slapping his hand in his palm for emphasis, Mr. Affleck added, “You’ve got to realize, this line of work, it’s rooted in a feeling of needing to audition all the time.”

He is the prince of self-sabotage. This is a person who gets to the top and can’t help but destroy what he’s built so that he can manufacture redemption all over again. This is what he’s just admitted. It’s a 10 year cycle.

Click here to read the full NYT piece on Ben Affleck.

Here’s Jennifer Garner promoting Miracles From Heaven in Miami yesterday.