Last Wednesday I wrote about divorce lawyer Laura Wasser’s client list, and the heads up she gave us about celebrity splits in March. I noted that with the approach of April Fools’ on a Friday, that might be a strategic dump day for a separation. Click here for a refresher.

On Friday afternoon, it was Page Six that first reported that Drew and husband Will Kopelman had broken up. She then followed with an official confirmation:  

"Sadly our family is separating legally, although we do not feel this takes away from us being a family. Divorce might make one feel like a failure, but eventually you start to find grace in the idea that life goes on. Our children are our universe, and we look forward to living the rest of our lives with them as the first priority."

PEOPLE is reporting that one of the reasons it’s not working out is location. She wants to be in LA and he is based in New York. Since Page Six was first on the story though, it’s worth noting that their source mentioned a personality conflict: 

“Drew had a very rebellious and wild childhood, with no family around her, and while she is a very different person now, and a great mother, some of that can stay with you.”

Now compare that with what she told InStyle last year:

"Will struck a lot of my pragmatic sides. He was someone who was always reachable on the phone, someone who was a classy human being, someone who has this incredible blueprint of a family that I don't have."

That’s interesting to me, pointing out that one of the reasons your husband is appealing is because he’s reachable on the phone. It’s the kind of attribute that only matters when you’ve had the opposite, you know? And you can probably read even more into the comment about the “blueprint of a family that I don’t have”. Because we all know about Drew’s childhood, her relationship to her mother, how that informed her childhood, her adolescence, and, perhaps, her entire life view.

Was it a classic case of creating what she never had? Put another way, was it a classic case of pretending to fit into a life she always thought she wanted – only to realise that the best fit was not to jump from one end of the spectrum to the opposite but, maybe, to find somewhere in between? Fundamentally how realistic is it to completely rewrite who you are?