Friday, April 20, 2012

Hi Sasha, One of my best friends is a great girl - intelligent, funny, we have so many interests and hobbies in common, and I've always been able to depend on her.  However, her dad passed away almost a year and a half ago, and as his only child, he left her everything - land, houses, money. And it's all gone straight to her head. Like so bad it makes me uncomfortable and I'm even embarrassed sometimes by what she says. When her dad passed away she said to me, "Can you believe I'm a millionaire now?" And she is constantly saying things like, "I discovered a new bank account this weekend and it has ten thousand in it", or the land I own makes me this "this much" money a year, or I have all these stocks and bonds now and vehicles.

This past weekend though she was extra inappropriate and rude about it.   Conversation goes on and turns to my fiance's stag. We are getting married in Vegas later this year and they were planning to have my fiance's stag there the first night we're all in Vegas, and maybe go to the exotic cars race track. My friend said "You need a high credit card limit to race those cars and none of you guys have a high enough credit card limit, but mine is high enough to race there." Again, I thought, wtf!  The day after that we went shopping. We went into a boutique and I saw some bags I really liked. I asked the sales person how much they were and she said they were about $100 each (which to me isn't cheap, nor is it crazy expensive either). My friend literally said, "I must be a snob because I would never spend so little on a bag." I was furious because first of all, I work hard for the money I do have and am not about to blow it on designer bags, and secondly, even if you do think that, why would you say it out loud?  Sasha, what do I do?


We’ve heard it before: If you need to keep telling someone how great and amazing you are then you clearly don’t feel that great and amazing. S, I think this applies directly to what’s going on with your friend right now.  

Instead of actually dealing with, and facing the loss of her father, she’s been band-aiding her pain with a butt-load of cash. Either it’s a tangible way to prove that her father really did love her or it’s just a way to deflect the sadness -- chances are it’s a bit of both. Having said all that though, no matter what hardships she is going through, it doesn’t null and void the fact that she's being an asshole.  

My first piece of advice would be to totally ignore her comments – let them fall flat into a field of crickets. But, if you’ve tried that - and I’m guessing you have - then I think you have no other choice but to call her out. The next time she lays down another materialistic comment, I’d simply ask her why she's doing it and how she expects you to take that? Is the idea that you’re poor and gross? Seriously, turn the comment right back on her - give her no choice but to answer for her sh-ttiness.

Look I feel bad that her father has passed; I really can’t imagine how difficult that is, but again, that doesn’t give her a free pass to be a sucky person.  

Hope this helps! xx  And keep your LIFE + STYLE questions rolling into me at [email protected].

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Smutty Tingles

Lainey Posted by Lainey at April 20, 2012 20:30:43 April 20, 2012 20:30:43

Sasha! I NEED those spiked shoes like Gwyneth was wearing except I want a pair of flats because I’m already too tall as it is.   T


Gwyneth’s spiked pumps were Christian Louboutin “Geo”.

Full disclosure: I'm not the biggest fan of the spiked shoe but, cross my heart, it won't stand in the way of trying to find you the flat of your dreams. Ready? Let's go!

If you've got bank like Gwyneth then I think we can call it a day at these sling-backs. Not only are they studded, but they're also fishnet - what the hell more could you ask for?

Another Louboutin spiked out look are these celebrity loved loafers. For a similar look at a way lower price point get clicking here and here and here. And if you're not down with the loafer look and just want an ordinary flat then check out this pair by Shutz.

Not only is this trend a major style statement, it's also an "I'll f-ck you up" statement as well. If you're ever in need of self defense, one swift kick into someone's nards with these will do the trick.

For some cheaper options click here and here.

On the flipside you can reverse the studding to the back - get ready to kick your heels up with my favorite picks here and here.

Finally if you want to juxtapose the hardness with a bit of softness then look no further than these Marc Jacobs flats.

Thanks for writing in and hope you found something you love! xx

(Not) Hot Harry and a baby

Lainey Posted by Lainey at April 20, 2012 19:35:49 April 20, 2012 19:35:49
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Lainey Posted by Lainey at April 20, 2012 18:45:27 April 20, 2012 18:45:27
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Boring. In fact, the two-piece wine coloured dress with feather trim for The Bling Ring photo call is a major letdown. Those chest darts don’t work on that f-cking material I hate so much. And then it was a plain black shift for the presser. Fine. Maybe she’s saving up for the tapis rouge. Full Story

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Rob Lowe’s genes

Lainey Posted by Lainey at April 20, 2012 18:29:55 April 20, 2012 18:29:55
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Lucy Liu’s spectacular showing at the Golden Globes in January is still in the running for my best of 2013 – click here for a refresher – so I’m pretty disappointed in this totally medium off-the-shoulder dress she wore yesterday, and VERY disappointed about these horrible shoes. Full Story

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The Nerd God

Lainey Posted by Lainey at April 20, 2012 16:01:50 April 20, 2012 16:01:50
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Now why can’t it be this stylish on a red carpet at an award show? Infinitely better than this, right? The blazer looks great on her over those pants. And a solid pair of black pumps. The clutch though is the weakest part.  Full Story

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