Hey Sasha, I have a huge, enormous crush on one my brother’s friends. I’ve loved him for a little over 4 years now, but I think he thinks of me as a kid cause he kind of treats me like one sometimes. I’m 18 now (so I’m legal!!!!) and he’s 26. He’s known me pretty much my whole life, and we’d make such a cute couple! How do I get him to stop thinking of me as his best friend’s little sister, and start seeing me as a mature woman? M
PS: pretty please don't tell me to wait til I get older, I really want to be with him!


Thou shall not pick the ripe ass of a sibling. 

I know this isn’t what you want to hear, but sadly that little rule sits high up on Bro Code. Believe me, I’m all for equal opportunity dating, but this ain’t happening anytime soon -- sorry to sh-t all over your teen heart. 

Now that doesn’t mean that buddy doesn’t think you’re hot or hasn’t beaten off to you a handful of times, but if he’s truly a stand-up guy and stand-up friend he won’t just f-ck around with you for the sake of f-cking around. And honestly, you shouldn’t either. Trust me, the dump truck of trouble that could drive up to your house if this doesn’t work out is totally not worth it. 

M, if I were you, I’d take your prime ass and shop it around with boys your own age for now.  Have fun, date a few dudes, get to know what you like and don’t like in relationships….

Once you’ve gotten that out of your system then see if you still want to return to these feelings. If they are still as raw and real as they are now then hit me up again in a year or two and I promise to come up with a game strategy. 

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