Hi Sasha, So I’m dating this guy, let’s call him B, who won’t commit. This is actually the second time we’re dating. We started dating a few months ago for a couple months. He told me he really liked me but wasn’t looking for anything serious, so after two months, I could no longer stand him seeing other girls, so I gave him an ultimatum, didn’t work, and we broke up. I met someone else, but he was way more into the relationship than I was, so I had to break up with him cause I really wasn’t feeling it, and couldn’t stop thinking about B.

So I went back to B, have been dating him for about 3 months now, and we’re still casual. It kills me every time we’re together and he gets a call from another girl (he usually doesn't take it, or just say 'call you back later', but it's almost always a different girl calling), but I can’t complain cause I’m supposed to be cool with the whole situation. I’m really not.  I’ve tried to actually casually date other guys, but dude wasn’t fazed in the least. I honestly can’t feel a thing for anyone else, no matter how badly I wish I could… I’m in need of some serious advice Sasha! Thanks, C.

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C, this is easy as muther f-cking pie:  if you’re not getting what you want out of this relationship then you need to get steppin’.  

I know, I know, you think you can convince him or pussy charm your way back into his heart, but C, that ain’t gonna work; if it did, it would have happened already.  This dude has straight up told you (on more than one occasion) that he’s not interested in an exclusive relationship. That means he not only cares very little about what the two of you have but on top of that, he’s taking bookings for his next bang right in front of you!! Come on, you see that this is embarrassing, right? 

I realize that I sound like a crusty bitch C, but I’m actually on your side. I just wish that instead of me trying to convince you that you deserve a GOOD relationship that you could do it for yourself. You have already spent a few months filtering out what you do and don’t want to hear, but this time, if you’re really willing to listen, then hear me loud and clear when I say: BREAK THIS OFF. 

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