Dear Sasha, I am a single mother of an adorable 3 year old. My husband and I separated when she was six months old. I did not think I would have any romantic or sexual life once my marriage ended. In the last few months though things have changed. My loins began to quiver again (thank you Nick Jonas). This, in combination to a great blowout and a fun office Christmas party, I hooked up with my co-worker for the best night (and morning) of sex I had in my life! We decided we would be FWB. I let him know however that our hook-ups would be few and far between because I really have very little support to take care of my daughter. It has been 6 weeks since we got together and I would like to initiate another get together. We see each other at work and talk. I don't know however, how to initiate another night of mind-blowing sex. I really get the sense he likes me a lot as well! I think my 41 year old ass taught him some things! Please help! How should I approach him? V 


Congratulations on getting your swerve back!

Now V, if you've read my column before you know how I feel about FWB. In short, I think they’re a ticking time bomb, but having said that it doesn’t mean you can’t absolutely squeeze in a few bump and grinds in before this pony ride ends.  

Okay, so the first thing you need to do is stop over-thinking it. Seriously, you don’t need to wine and dine this dude into f-cking. He wants to f-ck. He wants to f-ck all the time. You could literally walk past him, grunt and point somewhere in the vicinity of your vagina and he’ll be in. For real.

So if you wanna make this happen ask him if he wants to go for a drink after work and get the deed done.

I’ll leave you with some Nick Jonas to get you motivated!