To start, a year ago I became a nurse and started working at a local hospital where I met doctor A. I am 22 and single. He is in his mid thirties and married. He was known as the "mean doctor" on my floor but as the months went on I became really good friends with him and we would always talk a lot when he would come examine my patients. The other nurses would always tell me "he likes you" or "he treats you differently." I would always just say "were friends and have a mutual respect for one another." I recently moved far away and had to switch jobs. On my last day, Doctor A played practical jokes on me and hugged me in a way I have never been hugged before. It was almost as if he didn't want to let go. I gave him my email to keep in touch but have not heard anything. Since I have been gone I realized I have feelings for him that I never realized before. But he is MARRIED. I also recently talked to a former co-worker who mentioned she thought he really liked me too. Help me!!!!! AB
Look, I don’t expect you to have read everyone one of my advice columns, but even if you’ve only read the first sentence of, like, 1% of them, you should know what’s coming your way:
Don’t be an asshole.
That’s really just a general rule of thumb in life and AB, if you go looking to get involved with a married man then you are going to break that rule. I know that hug squeezed some fun-juice between your legs, but suck that sh-t right back in, because you shouldn’t even think about pursuing anything further.
Here's the thing: I don’t think you’re totally delusional. I'm sure he did enjoy flirting with you, but flirting doesn’t mean that he wants to spend the rest of his life with you. I mean, I flirt with the man at Subway every day so I can get some free extra cheese on my sub, and trust me AB, I have no intentions other than getting some goddamn free cheese. So basically, what I'm saying is, Subway sandwich guy has as much chance as you do.
AB, all I’m trying to do here is protect because I can promise you that nothing good will come of it. If dude was going to be a creep he would have emailed you by now, and sh-t, even if he does email you down the road, that’s still not a green light. I know this isn’t at all what you wanted to hear, but I’ll never root for someone who is trying to destroy a marriage.
I hope I gave you a little wake-up call – thanks for writing in! And keep your LIFE + STYLE questions coming to [email protected]