Dear Sasha, I’m 17, a freshman in college, and got an abortion two weeks ago. It was my first time, but I’m not even sure I’d be able to recognize the boy if I were to run into him… the only time I decide to let loose, not overthink things and be a “normal” kid my age, I get pregnant… I didn’t really wanted to get the abortion, but there was no way I could tell my parents. First they would have been very disappointed in me, second, they probably would have made me keep the baby and give him/her up for adoption, and I couldn’t have lived with that, so it seemed that that was my only option… now I feel empty. … I haven’t told anyone, so I guess I needed to get this off my chest.


Thank you for writing in – I can’t imagine how tough these last few weeks have been and I’m so sorry that you had to go through this on your own. 

Now while I’m totally sympathetic to the rollercoaster of emotions you’ve been going through I can’t ignore the fact that you did make a pretty bad judgement call by sleeping with that random dude with NO PROTECTION. If you only take one thing away from this please oh please make sure you’re always packing at least a dome – deal? 

But I don’t want to dog on you too much V, because sh-t, we’ve all f-cked up and we will all continue to f-ck up every now and again. I know this will end up sounding very after-school special, but if you want to move on and learn from this you’re going to need to confront all the emotions you’re feeling right now, no matter how bad they make you feel. So while it’s easy to talk yourself out of your feelings what I want you to do is talk through them - I promise, it’s the only way to get on the other side. 

S, if you can I would really suggest finding one person you trust to open up to, but if you’re not quite comfortable with that idea yet then click here and here for two great resources. I hope they help!

Keep me posted and of course for all of you out there keep sending your LIFE + STYLE question to [email protected]