A rumoured romance between former Real Housewives of Orange County star Alexis Bellino and the ex of current castmate Shannon Beador has people in a tizzy. One of those people is none other than former RHOC castmate Vicki Gunvalson.


On an Instagram post, Vicki slammed Alexis and John, calling their romance “thirsty”. 

Vicki Gunvalson on Instagram

The blog account that shared the post echoed Vicki’s sentiments, while another user rightfully pointed out that Alexis and Vicki shared a close friendship. Why, then, is she now calling her thirsty?

This is not the first time questions about ethics and “girl code” have come to the forefront in the Housewives universe. When Real Housewives of Atlanta’s Porsha Williams began dating Simon Guobadia, the ex-husband of her friend Falynn Pina, who also had a short stint on the show, people had mixed reactions to Porsha and Simon’s budding romance. 


But eventually, when rumours started to swirl about Falynn being the reason her marriage to Simon collapsed, and when she quickly became pregnant by the man she was rumoured to be having an affair with, people extended some grace to Porsha. And when she and Simon ultimately wed in a lavish Nigerian ceremony just over a year ago, which was so luxurious and noteworthy that it earned a spread in PEOPLE magazine, people began praising her and Simon’s relationship and giving her kudos for seizing the opportunity to be with a man with his rank (read: wealth). 


Yesterday, I wrote about the exes of disgraced Good Morning America hosts T.J. Holmes and Amy Robach starting their own relationship. The social media reaction to the news of this relationship has been priceless, and most can’t seem to find a reason to fault Andrew or Marilee for striking up a romance. But people are still asking questions about the beginnings of T.J. and Amy’s relationship, and despite them trying to clear up their timeline during their podcast premiere, a lot of folks simply aren’t buying it. 

In Alexis and John’s case, and much like T.J. and Amy allege, they paired up after leaving their relationships. Shannon said she was “blindsided” by John’s decision to end things (which, now that I think of it, is probably what fueled a lot of her drinking this season, including her DUI, which took place after filming wrapped). And Alexis’ engagement to Andy Bohn ended recently in September. So the question is: seeing as they were two single people, what exactly is the issue with the two of them getting together?


A comment under one of the articles covering the T.J. Holmes and Amy Robach story alluded to the unfortunate fact that people can wake up one morning, decide they don’t want to be with you and there’s really not much you can do about it. And as harsh as that realization may be, it’s absolutely correct. Every day, people wake up and decide to leave their partners, their marriages and their entire families behind for whatever reason they see fit. And though it may not feel good, that’s almost the extent of the crime. 

What I suspect Vicki’s true issue with Alexis and John’s relationship is is how it pertains to the show. Currently, Alexis is rumoured to be making a return for season 18 of Real Housewives of Orange County. Personally, I’m enthralled. The show has been lacking zest since Vicki (and also messy Noella) left. Besides Heather Dubrow’s embarrassment of riches, Shannon and Tamra’s drunken, mean girl escapades and Gina and Heather just doing the Gina and Heather thing, the show has kind of sucked in recent seasons. 


In the same way that I wrote about the common misconception that relationships that begin under circumstances like Andrew and Marilee’s and that Alexis and John’s and Shania Twain and Frederic’s are all out of spite, it wouldn’t surprise me if Vicki was assuming Alexis was dating John for a storyline. But it can also make a lot of sense for John to go on and date another Housewife.

He’s obviously got a type – rich and blonde, which Alexis crosses off. But beyond her being his type, much like it did in the other cases, it also comes down to the shared experience they have. They both come from separations. They both have kids. And they both know how to be around production crews and catty women. 

I think we need to be more open to accepting the multitude of ways a romance or relationship can begin. Sometimes it’s linear, sometimes it’s messy and sometimes it’s unethical. That’s what love is. Sometimes it works out and sometimes it doesn’t. In these cases, I’m just happy to have a front seat to see how it all unfolds.