Dear Gossips,

While Batfleck dominated the box office this weekend (more on that later), Jennifer Lopez is making headlines for talking about their relationship. In an interview with Jess Cagle, editorial director for both PEOPLE and Entertainment Weekly, she confirms that there was “genuine love” between them. And yet…

“I really felt like when I met Ben I was like, ‘OK this is it’. Sometimes I feel like what you think people are and how you see them when you love them is different than when they reveal, later. And I think we had a lot of, we didn’t try to have a public relationship. We just happened to be together at the birth of the tabloids.”

First of all, it wasn’t the birth of the tabloids. The tabloids were around long before Bennifer. But it was the birth of the gossip blog. And Bennifer certainly contributed to our rise.

Second…what she’s saying, or not saying here, about what you learn about someone after you start loving them, it’s another way of describing the two Ben Afflecks, non? Jennifer Garner described the way it feels when he’s paying attention to you – and when he’s not (warm in the sun, cold in the shadow) and Jennifer Lopez can also very much relate to the experience of being with a man who’s still trying to figure out how to be with himself. You can smell that on Ben Affleck. And, yet, for some reason, we are told that this is attractive. I promise you there are so many women who are drawn to it. We’ve seen so many women who’ve been drawn to it. He’s disappointed every single one.

Yours in gossip,