Two weeks ago, Gwyneth Paltrow and her friends were in Mexico for what was then called a bachelorette (ugh) trip. Last weekend, Ryan Murphy hosted an engagement party for G and Brad Falchuk in Hollywood, attended by major stars like Julia Roberts and Reese Witherspoon. THIS weekend it was another pre-wedding event – what looks like a bridal shower perhaps hosted by Monique Lhuillier?
Blythe Danner was seen holding on to a Monique Lhuillier garment bag at the party last week and since Monique designs wedding gowns, some people think Monique will be designing G’s wedding gown, which I’ve already said seems kinda basic but, then again, G’s wedding is bigger than she is. G’s wedding is a goop wedding. It could very well be featured in an issue of goop magazine. And if her friend, Monique, is willing to provide bonus content…? You know.
When Gwyneth married Chris Martin, it was super undercover. It was in a hotel room. No one was around. In her mind then, this is her first wedding. Which is why she’s drawing out every last detail, every tradition and custom. Have you ever had a friend who expected your life to revolve around their wedding? Do you think this will happen with G’s friends?
In other G news, do you listen to the Esther Perel podcast? Everyone in my life has been obsessed with Esther Perel the last few months, including Duana. Duana walked into my house talking about Esther Perel when we podcasted on Friday. And Esther came up several times throughout the night. If you, like Duana and my other friends, are super into Esther Perel, how do you feel about the fact that she’s been gooped?
During the lengthy conversation, Perel asked Paltrow about the couples she knows who have been an inspiration to her in her current relationship with the American Horror Story producer. According to the Oscar-winning actress, nearly everyone in her circle of friends has managed to keep the spark alive in their unions -- except her.
"I’m actually the only one in my life who got divorced," she shared. "This used to feel like a failure -- it took me a while to reframe that divorce isn’t a failure."
According to Paltrow, she's had a long history of dating men who she knew would have a difficult time being intimate, in an unconscious attempt to shift the blame of the relationship's collapse off of herself.
"In the past, I’ve been in relationships with men who had intimacy issues, so I could be, like, 'I’m fine, I’m ready to do this,' and let myself think he’s the one with the problem," she explained. "In a way, some of the relationships were designed to keep me out of intimacy."
"Now, for the first time, I feel I’m in an adult relationship that is sometimes uncomfortable, because he sort of demands a certain level of intimacy and communication that I haven’t been held to before," she added. "What came up in the first couple of years of our relationship was how incapable I was in this realm, how I feared intimacy and communication."
The 45-year-old actress has been in a number of high-profile romances throughout her career, including a failed engagement to Brad Pitt and a three-year on-and-off relationship with Ben Affleck, before she began dating Martin in 2002.
"If you look at life like a pie chart, the romantic slice is where all the sh-t comes out. I’ve always felt that I’m a good friend, mother, daughter, sister, boss, co-worker -- but that I was most broken in that romantic slice," she said. "I had two typical types of relationships: one where I was constantly chasing and trying to win someone over, and one where I was put off by the person’s capacity for the relationship -- and those relationships were very short-lived."
"In a lot of those relationships, I wasn’t particularly in love with the person," she continued. "It was more about 'Why don’t they like me? What’s wrong with me?' I think my desire to overachieve in part comes from this pattern."
Paltrow added that she often feels she had to be "extra, extra good at something in order to be worth anything."
Who do you think she was “constantly chasing”? Is Chris Martin too easy? Because he was, literally, always running away from her in order to avoid being seen with her?