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Dear Gossips,

So Jesse James has now confirmed he’s entered a treatment facility. Just like Tiger Woods before him and what’s sure to be countless others after him, James is supposedly getting help for “Sex Addiction” which, really, when you think about it, should actually be called “Sex-With-Other-Bitches-You’re-Not-Married-To” Addiction because the problem never seems to be about too much sex with their wives.

While I’ve no doubt that there are those who legitimately suffer from Sex Addiction, attributing the affliction to someone like James, and also Tiger, might say more about the observers (us) than the observed (them). Blaming infidelity on a mental disorder is so much more comforting than admitting that the unfaithful is just a bad person. Because a disorder comes with hope for “fixing.” But if someone’s a bad person, well, they’re simply a bad person. There’s no manual of solutions. Which is why some people, like my mother, think that these diagnoses and labels are simply excuses, what we need to make the world less lonely. It’s incredibly lonely to think that the Jesses and the Tigers of the world, the people who hurt us, are that way just because they are that way. Period. That they suck because they suck. Not because they’re ill, not because they’ve been mistreated themselves, not because they were victims before, but simply because they are rotten inside, The. End. If that’s the case, then we cannot explain away their failures, and therefore we cannot explain away our own pain as victims, or worse, and this is ultimately why we go looking for “answers”, we can’t protect ourselves from it going forward. This sh-t will happen.

Sure, it’s a devastatingly depressing way of thinking, and/or living. You could look at it that way, totally. Or, on the other hand, maybe it’s more efficient. So Jesse James comes out of rehab in a few weeks and this means he’ll stop lying, scheming, and betraying? Really? This is a good use of Sandra Bullock’s time? Maybe I’m too unforgiving, sceptical, cynical, and faithless. Maybe there’s a program that can cure all that too.

Ugh. Profundity overload. How about this?

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It’s Wednesday. Will be blogging all day.

Yours in gossip,

Lainey

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