A couple of weeks ago, Mila Kunis talked to MARIE CLAIRE about how Ashton Kutcher would not be looking at her “shredded” vag when she gives birth to their baby. Well now I can totally see her private/public line and I completely understand what she will and won’t talk about in interviews.

For instance, given Kunis’s response to MARIE CLAIRE about what it will be like on labour day, I’m pretty clear on the fact that asking her how she’s feeling is 100% offside.

Right?

Actually, no.

A reporter for The Star-Ledger asked her that very question – how are you feeling? – and was met with disdain.

“I don’t talk about that for publication” was her response.

Then, as he writes, “we’re off”. She’s snippy. She’s condescending. She’s a dick. Click here to read the article. It’s definitely not the Mila Kunis we saw here.

And it’s just not her attitude about pregnancy questions that bothers me. What probably bothered me most was her reluctance to talk about the struggle of immigration:

“I’ve talked about me moving to America in a hundred interviews. It’s the most mundane subject possible, it’s like everyone’s immigrant story. It was much harder for my 13-year-old brother, it was much harder for my parents.”

Mundane? There are a lot of things that are mundane. Posting photos of you and your fiancée on social media is f-cking mundane. But sharing the story of her history and background, at a time of increasing intolerance, when others could benefit from either relating to the experience and/or learning from it isn’t mundane. And her characterisation of it as such is insulting.

Actors keep insisting that they be taken more seriously, that they are more than just pretty faces. Here’s an opportunity for her to demonstrate that, to balance the shredding vagina commentary with an alternative. And she decided to pass. Fine. Then should we just stick to shredding vaginas?

So what’s this all about? The influence of Ashton Kutcher? I’d like to believe that but if I can’t give him credit for when she’s awesome, I certainly can’t give him credit for when she’s not.

Is it possible then that Mila Kunis has just been an asshole all along – kinda like Gary Oldman?

Some people have tried to explain it away. Because she’s pregnant. And hormones.

Please. Please don’t do that. Please don’t use the biology of women, something so beautiful, and turn it into a deficiency. Because if that’s the excuse – she was difficult and truculent and uncooperative because she’s pregnant – then what you’re really saying is that women who are pregnant are INCAPABLE of being kind, polite, and professional when they’re expecting a child. That gets us nowhere.