It hasn’t even been a week yet since we found out that Justin Bieber was over at Selena Gomez’s house – with some other friends – kicking off a series of meetups that culminated in the news yesterday that she and The Weeknd are no longer together. Is anyone broken up about this breakup? Neither one of them seem to be. Abel is on tour, doing whatever it is that musicians do on tour. And there was so little time between when he ended his relationship with Bella Hadid and hooking up with Selena, I’m not sure he’s all that into his feelings about this.

As for Selena, well, she’s gone back to her distraction. Or … destruction? According to TMZ:

A member of Selena's family tells us many of them have never forgiven Justin for what they claim was extremely bad conduct during their long on-again-off-again relationship.
One family member says, "Justin is a vile human and will never be accepted by us. As long as she is even speaking to him in any way, it is not only disrespectful to everyone around her, it is disrespectful to herself."

Some members of Selena's family believe she went to rehab for depression because of the way Justin treated her.

PEOPLE followed later with a story about how much JB has changed in the last few months. And that he wants the chance to prove it:

“Justin is aware Selena’s family is not thrilled they are hanging out. They think he caused Selena a lot of grief,” says a Bieber pal. “Justin hopes he can prove to them that he has changed.”

“He has changed a lot in the past few months. He is a very different person,” adds the pal. “They have a lot to talk about and are having fun catching up.”

Many of us have or have had someone like this in our lives. Or we were that for someone else. The kryptonite. When you’re with that person, you’re toxic together. I recently read Jasmyn Ward’s Sing, Unburied, Sing (an incredible work) and there’s a couple in the book, their love for each other is relentless, and really, really terrible. Every scene between them was familiar, and traumatic, especially if you’ve been there, and or if you’ve watched someone in that space where love, literally, becomes a trap. And then a black hole. After a while, you don’t even know if there’s a way out anymore.

This is not what anyone wants for either Selena or Justin. Sasha and I just talked about this on the upcoming episode of the Sasha Answer podcast – we were INTO IT, deep, the first time around, when they were first-loving each other in that adorable way only first adolescent love can be. Don’t lie, we were all into it the second time around. Let me remind you:

I still can’t watch that without feeling like I need to hide, even though I’ve done nothing wrong. But also? Who can look away?

That’s also part of it too, non? If I can’t look away, how can they?

If there is to be Jelena 3.0, then, now that they’re probably in their 20s, do we end up at … like… a wedding and marriage before the inevitable?

Attached - Selena Gomez out for a bike ride with a friend yesterday in LA and Justin Bieber wrapping up lunch at Joan's on Third.