On Friday, the hashtag #IDumpedTaylorSwiftBecause was a global trending topic. People were weighing in on her breakup with Calvin Harris by tweeting stupidity like this:

#IDumpedTaylorSwiftBecause she wears granny panties— Marshall (@MarshallSbar) June 3, 2016


I was expecting the sexist backlash that would inevitably come after this breakup. I was about as shocked at this hashtag as the world was that Taylor was single again. Really, was anyone really that surprised? That’s not a jab at Swift. We shouldn’t be surprised that Taylor is now single. We shouldn’t be surprised because she is 26 years old, at the top of her game and probably has a few more healthy breakups in her future. But a lot of people aren’t surprised that Calvin was supposedly the one who “ended it” because Taylor Swift’s tabloid narrative is that she is the Stage 5 Clinger who desperately wants to be in love but no one will love her. Poor Taylor and her “granny panties” can’t keep a man. #IDumpedTaylorSwiftBecause is essentially a list of all the reasons why this crazy girl deserved to lose her boyfriend. To me, this sh-t is worse than the slut-shaming stuff Taylor always puts on herself. Remember when she called herself a “national lightning rod for slut-shaming” to Vogue (click here for a refresher)?

No one is calling out Taylor for her sexual appetite. If anything, they are calling her out for her lack of one. They are calling her naïve, pathetic, insecure and dependent on the affections of men. A story I like better is that those rumours of Taylor and Tom Hiddleston were true and that she dumped Calvin to play the field or here’s a shocking theory: maybe a twenty-something woman with the world at her fingertips actually just wanted to be single? How much of a blow to Calvin’s ego would it be if HE was the one who got dumped by pop’s Queen Cat Lady?

I wonder why no one is tweeting that they dumped Calvin Adam Harris Wiles because he changed his name so people wouldn’t know if he “was black or not.” He actually said those words. A privileged white dude deliberately used race to further his career. As Lainey wrote last week, the idea that he hated the spotlight and is so “not Hollywood” is bullsh-t. He’s the WORST. Why is no one calling him out for being the worst? While ‘sources’ have since denied this, PEOPLE reported that Calvin Adam Harris Wiles couldn’t handle Taylor’s success and that he, “said on multiple occasions that he was intimidated by Taylor, which is why he would not attend any events where she was being honoured, or any award shows unless he was nominated." This guy is THE WORST.

So where are the #IDumpedCalvinHarrisBecause stupid tweets? I’m not saying that would solve anything but it proves the double standard that exists when male celebrities don’t get the same scrutiny. Joe Jonas has also had a string of short-ish relationships. So has Nick Jonas. Bradley Cooper. Chris Pine. I could go on.

Aside from her music, I’m not usually one to defend Taylor Swift but let’s not forget that she is young, HOT, talented and a f-cking Grammy-winning POWERHOUSE in the music business. She’s smart and calculating and sure, she invites us to weigh in on her love life by sharing the details through her music, but she doesn’t deserve the Internet’s misogynistic tirades. If and when Taylor does settle down, “keeping” a man will be very low on her list of achievements.

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